We all have things to share. Whether its our talents, expertise, or time, we inevitably have people asking us for advice on a variety of topics. They ask because they see us as an expert, source of inspiration, and/or trusted source. So why is it that there are times when we don’t follow our own best advice? Is it perhaps, “easier said than done?”
As I reflected over my summer, I wanted to share four “pieces of advice” I have given recently and still struggle with following myself:
1. Rest, Unplug, and Be Present
Earlier this summer, I shared my thoughts on how to “keep your charge” (both on a mobile battery as well as your internal battery.) While the content of that post was good, actualizing it requires more discipline and focus. I still have days where I keep my phone plugged in all day and nights where I’m at the dinner table glued to my mobile device… when I should be unplugging the phone and keeping my attention to the people who are in front of me. I now try to turn off my monitors when someone comes in the door so my eyes do not wander as well as turn “airplane mode” on my phone when I get into my car and/or walk in the door at home. I will also start to encourage shutting our mobile devices off during staff meetings.)
I regularly have folks who start a new blog that is hosted on my Hostgator account (affiliate link). Usually, the first piece of advice I give them is to write “regularly” or at least once a week. I haven’t written a post since early August and while that’s been attributed to the start of the semester, I should try to make a better effort in writing, reflecting and sharing. I now have gone back to writing out my posts for the month as soon as I can so all I have to do is schedule, edit and publish. Lucky for you all 😉
3. Connecting on Social Media
Truthfully, I’ve felt and been disconnected from Twitter all summer. This was a conscious choice to try and restore some balance in my life from feeling like I was on it too much. I realized recently that I’ve become more of a broadcaster than someone who engages, and need to return back to reconnecting. Perhaps its part of the growing pains of living life online, but I’m glad to have come to this realization with the help of some many of you who continue to be an inspiration for me. I now have gone back to setting aside time each morning and afternoon to share, answer questions, and engage with my online communities.
4, You Can’t Do It All
This is classic advice I give to my staff and students when they come into my office all stressed out about how much is on their plate…yet I continue to take on more. For a better approach to my work and life at home, I realized that I need to model this better since I can’t do it all. This fall, I am in the process of taking things off my plate, hoping that it positively affects numbers 1, 2, and 3 for next spring 🙂 Delegation has been key to maximizing my time and closing my door (guilt free) has been a must-do.
As the semester rolls on, be mindful of what advice you give out and are not completely following through on. Whether your advice is similar or different, ask for more help than you have in the past. While writing this post has been cathartic, I hope that those who interact with me regularly will help keep me focused. After all, aren’t we in this together? 🙂
What advice do you give others that you struggle with yourself? What advice you have for keeping up with… your own advice? 🙂